Forest of Freyja

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..:: perfectionism ::.. what if you’re not per

..:: perfectionism ::..

what if you’re not perfect?

when your left eye gets smaller than the right when you’re tired?

and get a little snarky when you’re hungry?

what if your body doesn’t do all the things you wish it could do?

you’re body changed compared to last year but you’re way happier now?

or you’re body is different now because you haven’t been feeling so great lately?

what if you make a bad decision?

say the wrong thing?

forget your best friends birthday?

i used to beat myself up for all of it

now i know i’m human

#internalconcversations#selfcare#selflove#perfectionism#wildwoman#wildwomen#yoga#meditation#persoonlijkeontwikkeling#personaldevelopment#rainforestmind#hsp#highlysensitive#womanboss

..:: don’t fight the feeling ::.. i suffer mor

..:: don’t fight the feeling ::..

i suffer more when i fight the feelings

things go icky when i don’t want to feel what i’m feeling

when i put a story to whatever is currently going on within me

“i’m not supposed to be tired, i didn’t even do that much” “i can’t be tired, because there is so much more to do”

or “i should be able to do this exercise or lift that weight, because i’ve done it before”

i forget that i actually did many things, just not the thing my ego considers “work” or “being productive”

or i forget that i can’t do that exercise right now because i trained like 15 hours in one weekend or i am in a different part of my cycle

the more i fight my feelings instead of listen to them the more i suffer

today i tried something else

instead of pushing myself to do everything i stayed in bed and then moved from my bed to the couch

doing nothing

then i had to leave to teach my class (because i know life doesn’t allow us to skip on all responsibilities)
and still that is also a choice

but the surprising thing was

that when i came home i started doing the things that i was dreading to do for days

just naturally..with a clear and bright energy
feeling completely centered

why? because i allowed myself to rest
to feel the feeling, which in this case was tiredness.

it could also be anger. or sadness. or doubt.

stop fighting the feeling.

a constellation is a beautiful way to give space to whatever is present for you right now. to see it and invite it in. and once it knows it is acknowledged and allowed to be there, it will transform into something new.

what feelings can you give space to today?

📷 @franziska_brodhun

#opstellingen#systemischwerk#systemicwork#constellations#yoga#meditation#persoonlijkeontwikkeling#personaldevelopment#selfcare

..:: i had lost my voice and there i was teaching

..:: i had lost my voice and there i was teaching on a stage ::..

even though i did my first yoga teacher training at 20 years old
i had never seen myself as a mover

and even though as a kid i wanted to be a primary school teacher
as a grown up i had never thought of myself as a teacher

as life happened i even lost my voice
i created the belief that people weren’t interested in what i had to say
so i kept myself as small and silent as possible

but what i never truly lost was my intuition
and one day, during a lecture
when i studied vitality management and tourism
a tall man with grey hair walked into our classroom

he had the weirdest jokes
that only i seemed to get because no one else was laughing
and there was something about him that made me feel i had to follow this guy

a couple weeks later i was studying in our hallway at uni
and my teacher asked another student if she wanted to do her internship and thesis for this non-profit
she politely declined

this happened to be the non-profit that this guy was also a part of

i’m not sure what came over me
but i immediately said i would like to do it
as my voice was clearly showing i felt offended for not being considered in the first place 😂

fast forward a year later
i was a manager at his healthcenter
and teaching body balance on a stage

your intuition will always tell you where to go
and when you meet the right people
they can change your life

working with him slowly gave me back my voice
his wife showed me that if there wouldn’t be women
all would be lost
and with my colleagues i found a family

i found a home in the most unexpected of places
and this was the start of my movement journey

as it’s now time for them to end this part of their story
i wanted @bodylinehc to know that they were the beginning of my story as a movement teacher
and now that i have my own business
i’ve taken over the purpose to keep the people in this world moving
physically and emotionally

#endingsandbeginnings#family#upsanddowns#moveyourbody#intuition#freyja#yoga#meditation#fitness#lesmills#budokon

..:: omg are you STILL in your pj’s? ::.. i’d

..:: omg are you STILL in your pj’s? ::..

i’d ordered sunburst chestnut uggs
and while i was doing bulgarian split squats in the gym
they were delivered at one of my neighbours

well let’s just say i assumed it must have been
because all it said was: joanna

thing is, i didn’t know who she was

(note to ups: a house number might be more practical to note down as to where i might find this gift i bought myself)

so here i am on my saturday morning knocking on my neighbours doors

i found a jolanda
she didn’t have my shoes
but did know where to find the other jo- something

you might think this is about my shoes
it’s not so i’ll get to it

as these women both opened their doors for me
they were still in their pj’s
one in cotton checkered blue
the other in velvet turquoise

and both of them apologized for it
with a hint of shame

as if being in your pj’s or sweats at 10 am on a saturday is something to be embarrassed about

what is it that as women
we have been so ingrained
about being “presentable”?

as if somehow we are not supposed to rest
we are not supposed to show ourselves to the world
messy, tired and most of all relaxed

it’s like we need to present ourselves as busy women
the ones that can do it all
be all
without ever needing a break

and it pisses me off

why?

because i recognized the shame on their faces

i think it’s time you stop feeling ashamed for taking rest
for not working hard
for simply finding joy and play

and for being in your pj’s on a saturday
hell
until after dinner if you’d like

and as i sit here eating peanut m&m’s
yes i eat sugar
in my mustard yellow sweats and perfectly knitted woolen sweater
i felt the need to tell you that i will do it again
and again

until i live my life without even a hint of guilt
shamelessly being messy, tired and in need of rest, play and pleasure, preferably with something chocolaty

xo
your fellow pj’s girl

📷 @wavesandwoods.studio
ps. if you’re in desperate need of some pj’s time, out in nature with someone cooking you some delicious food you can book this cozy bed you see me in @terrawolde

..:: the world is a better place because you’re

..:: the world is a better place because you’re in it ::..

i’ve had 2 different friends tell me the same message in one day

“the world is a better place because you’re in it
Light it up
anyone who can catch a glimpse of your light is a lucky human being”

and you know what? for the first time in my life I believe them

and i am so grateful i did the work to love myself first.

so that the right people could find me. so i can now let them also love me

and now i’m just so blown away by how special and nourishing it is to have the right people in your life

to have friends who truly feel this way about you

to find your people

the ones that see your light
the ones that support you to shine it even brighter

if you feel your light is dimmed
if you feel the people in your life can’t see your light

it’s time to first start shining
flip the switch or turn up the brightness
it’s in your hands

let the people who can’t see the beauty of what your light brings into existence go
and let the people who love what you brought to light stay
let them find you now because they have been searching for your shade of light for years

i am sure of it
and i mean it
the world is a better place because you’re in it

#wildwomen#wildwoman#softhartstrongback#shineyourlight#friendshipsmatter#sisterhood#selflove

..:: you are going to be okay ::.. as i flew back

..:: you are going to be okay ::..

as i flew back home from spain
on a random monday
there was a moment where i was suddenly surrounded by layers and layers of clouds
it was as if i could step right into a gloomy painting

there might be days
where the going gets tough
where you’re suddenly
caught between the clouds

not sure
about yourself
the path you’re taking
or about anything

i know I have those days
and what helps
is a gentle reminder

that whatever has been
whatever is
whatever will be

you’re going to be okay

so for anyone who needs to hear it today

you’re going to be okay

take pause if you need to
and then continue on
you’ve got this

and if you need help
know that you don’t have to do it alone

#systemischwerk#coaching#systemischcoach#budokon#yoga#meditatie#mindfulness#persoonlijke ontwikkeling#persoonlijkegroei#wildwoman#wildwomen#warriorwoman#spiritualwarrior#youaregoingtobeokay

..:: 🐝 authenticity buzz 🐝::.. i believe w

..:: 🐝 authenticity buzz 🐝::..

i believe we all have different frequencies
a different “type” of energy as you will
so we spend our energy in certain ways
and we also charge it in different ways

so for years now
my practice has been to embrace who i am
by creating an environment that makes my energy vibrate in my strongest frequency
let’s call it my
authenticity buzz
i like it 🐝

and by being myself
by vibrating on my own unique frequency
i have drawn in
“my people” that make me feel like i belong
i found work that brings out my qualities and gives meaning to my days
and i live my life in a way
that gives me joy and charges me

the more i get to vibrate in my own frequency
the stronger i feel and the stronger it gets

if you still try to fit your own frequency into the world around you
i ask you to stop sacrificing your own health and well-being
and turn that shit around

there are people waiting for you
wondering where their lover or best friend is hiding
because there must be someone else “like them”
there must be more “weird ones” that vibrate in their frequency
so start vibrating on yours
create a buzz
so the world that makes you happy
can come into existence

#forestoffreyja#authenticity#authenticitybuzz#frequency#authenticvibrations#yourvibeattractsyourtribe#wildwoman#wildwomen#beyou#hsp#sensitivity

..:: how to fit into the world ::.. i am sensiti

..:: how to fit into the world ::..

i am sensitive

trucks that drive by make me feel like they’re cutting through my soul

i love spending time with friends
and also the amount of hours i spent socializing i need at least as many hours to be alone and re-charge

certain smells can make me queasy while others don’t even notice the scent

and if i go out till 11 pm i know i won’t sleep until at least 2 am, sometimes 3 or 4
because that’s how much time my nervous system and brain need to wind down again
depending on the intensity of the input

i have a very rich inner world
and i feel very deeply

now my struggle has never been that i am sensitive that way

it has given me the qualities to perceive the world in my own special way
and i like to think my sensitivity is what makes me me

my struggle has been, and sometimes still is (especially at certain times during the month) the fear of being perceived as weak by others because of it

and through trial and error i worked my way through fitting into the world
until i realized it was far more fun to create my own so that the world fit me instead

see my next post on how i did that

#forestoffreyja#authenticity#authenticitybuzz#frequency#authenticvibrations#yourvibeattractsyourtribe#wildwoman#wildwomen#beyou#hsp#sensitivy

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